sacrifice

It says in the bible that we should give up everything for the kingdom. recently ive been trying to work out what that means. we have to be prepared to lay everything, even our lives down for God and His work. Community is the work of God, so should we lay everything down to move in? well this is my current problem. to lay everything down for full style 3 membership it means i have to put my relationship with the only person ive ever really loved and felt completely secure with on hold for 3+ years. under strict reading of the bible, this means i have to give him up. however, thinking about it, is it not better to continue the relationship outside of community and be able to focus on God more, than to be in style 3 community(which i really want to do) and be distracted? Yes God wants everything from me and yes I want to give Him that, I just dont feel He gets it all when Im worrying about if Im going to lose people. surely security is better than screwing yourself up inside and shredding yourself to pieces? I know I like being in control and knowing whats happening and that Gods working through that with me, but taking away someone thats brought me so close to God? I dont know. something for you to think about-whats God doing in you? Have you got/had any impossible decisions to make? How has knowing God helped you through them? Have you ended up taking the choice that hurts least? or most?